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“You have less than ten seconds and realistically close to four seconds to make a good impression on those with whom you come in contact,” says Kevin Hogan, Psy.D., Body Language Expert.

Four seconds to rock it or blow it. That’s pressure.

But wait, it gets more complex. The most important message you’re sending has nothing to do with what you say.

Most social psychologists say that nonverbal communication makes up about two-thirds of all communication between two people or between one speaker and a group of listeners. These ‘silent messages’ include body positions, movements, facial expressions, voice quality and intonation, mannerisms and more.

Does this mean that you can spout total gibberish and count on the right body language to sell your expertise for you? Heck no! But you could be unknowingly undermining your own success when your physical presence doesn’t support your message.

Studies have shown that there’s a strong correlation between the physiological (your body) and the psychological (how you think and feel.) To put it plain: how you hold your body will affect how you think, feel and act. The good news is that you can absolutely fake it ’til you make it. You can boost your charisma by assuming physical positions that make you feel more confident. And when you feel yourself in a position of power, you’re more likely to behave in a powerful, confident way. Pretty cool, huh?

Here are poses to practice. They’ll help your exterior communicate the bold business superstar you are:


Totally obvious, right? A smile is the gateway to rapport; it telegraphs warmth and friendliness. But, when we’re nervous, we often forget to smile. Go ahead. Bust out your natural grin – it has remarkable powers to make you feel good.

Best of all, it can also affect the way that other people feel. Carol Kinsey Goman, author of The Silent Language of Leaders, says, “People instinctively mimic a smile when they see one, and that, in turn, affects their emotional state.”

Unleash Your Inner Superhero

When you really need to project confidence and power, put on your Wonder Woman stance. Why it works: when people are in Famous in Your Field Power Poses - Wonder Womana position of power, they actually feel taller.

Channel this positive emotion by standing with your body square, legs apart and hands on hips. Hold the pose for a full minute or two. “Your testosterone level increases, and your level of cortisol, a stress hormone, decreases,” says Goman.

Live Large

Going into a situation where you need to appear confident? Ditch how you usually prepare for a big meeting or speech (sitting in a chair, hunched over your notes.) Instead, walk around with your arms up in the air and stre-e-t-ch your body by standing on tiptoes. When you enter the room, stand square and tall.

Going into a sitting situation? Don’t cross your legs or your arms! Rest your arms on the chair arms or go bold by leaning back in your chair and clasping your hands behind your head to really project dominance.

Your fame boosting assignment:

This week, practice being conscious of your physical presence. Three times each day, hold a power pose for two minutes. Higher testosterone levels + lower cortisol levels = one fabulous, confident business star!


  1. laura on April 15, 2014 at 7:17 am

    The Smile. It’s essential. For so long, I hid mine because I didn’t like this or that about it. And, yet, when I do What you are speaking to from my spiritual perspective is really a way of elevating your vibration so that you are attracting abundant vibrations to you. I love your Exercise!!!! Gonna use that for myself and teach it as well ~ thanks!

  2. Lorraine on April 15, 2014 at 4:43 pm

    Being confident is so important. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Nancy on April 15, 2014 at 5:38 pm

    These work even if you’re not face to face with someone. I find that if I’m doing a webinar or teleclass, and I hold my body as if I were live and in front of a group of people, that stance translates to my voice and my message. The body is our instrument of communication (even psychically, through our nervous system) so it makes sense to learn how to play it skillfully.

  4. Kathleen Watson on April 16, 2014 at 4:59 pm

    Lori, I found the fact about increasing testosterone/decreasing cortisol just through your stance to be fascinating. I guess the next question is this: Does that Wonder Woman stance also affect the bustline? 🙂

  5. Lilia Lee on April 18, 2014 at 1:42 pm

    I love ” put on your Wonder Woman stance.” It is so right that borrowing the attitude of someone who is successful and you admire will make you feel so much more confident!
    Thanks for this and all your posts.

  6. Susannah Steers on April 18, 2014 at 2:16 pm

    I love these quick ways to “get into” one’s body! So often, what people react to is the resonance between what they hear coming out of your mouth, and what they “feel” or read from your body language. When things are in synch – great things happen! Great article. Thank you!

  7. Kelley Grimes on April 20, 2014 at 11:04 pm

    As a counselor I believe body language tells us so much about each other, so your reminder not to cross your arms, to be mindful of your posture and how you can communicate confidence with your stance is so wise. Thank you so much!

  8. Jane Lovas on April 22, 2014 at 8:44 pm

    Standing in your power is so important. I see so many women who slouch and look at the floor. I use that as a reminder to stand tall and look people in the eye.

  9. Dorothy Pang, Fertility Coach & Acupuncturist on April 24, 2014 at 8:38 pm

    Thanks for these lovely reminders! I don’t often need to network, but going to those kinds of events always makes me a little nervous and I’m hoping the next one will be less so with your wonderful tips.

  10. […] Before I’m about to go on to a stage to speak, I run through my talk one last time, play a few songs that I love, repeat to myself how excited I am to be able to speak to this group and finish off with a little power posing. […]

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